Happiness: It starts with a conversation you have with yourself. It’s answering the hard questions that only you can answer. It’s a truth that only you can understand. It’s loving yourself. Finding yourself. Knowing yourself completely. It’s a lot less about what you do than who you are.
Choose: Decide who you’re going to be. Don’t let the illusion of a New Year, a new job, a new partner, etc. lead you to believe that you have to wait for it to appear before you can do something beneficial for yourself. Just who, exactly, gave it the right to tell you when and how to do things?
Despite what’s currently going on in the world or your life, we have the responsibility to walk in the direction of peace. Don’t let disfunction and negativity take you away from that. Don’t let other people’s fears and insecurities unhinge the home you’re building within. They are responsible for their actions as you are responsible for your own.
Everyday you must sell your dream to yourself. Never let a day go by that you don’t remind yourself why your dream is important. Never let go of that constant nagging in your mind nudging you to press on. Move forward. Be persistent.
When you’re trying to get your business off the ground you can’t worry about how much competition there is out there…not always. Looking at it from a personal development angle, sometimes the best thing you can do is accomplish your goal regardless of what’s going on. At the end of it all, it shapes you to be the person you’re supposed to be in order do what you’ve been created to do.
“I need a vacation.” Heard that one before, right? But what I really needed was a detoxification from work, people, and life situations. I kept asking myself, When do I get to breathe? When do I get to do what I want? When will someone finally notice and appreciate my efforts? Then it hit me: When? Now.
It was simple and I needed to remember what I needed. I take a breather when I want…not when someone says so. I get to do what I want when I make time for it and not when someone says I can. And I don’t need validation and appreciation for my efforts from someone else…when I pre-approved it. The lack of sleep and constant busy nothings was getting to me. I needed to take some time off from everything and everyone.
So, I shut off all communication from the outside world, refused to check emails, voicemails, and social media…and I couldn’t have made a better choice. Sometimes…some days…it just needs to be you against the world. Did I feel bad about not answering their calls, responding to emails, or not being available? (Insert laughter here.)
I had forgotten the answer to one question: You know what happens when you stop helping those who expect it from you? They eventually figure it out themselves. I can’t help everyone who asks for it…and I’m not required to. First, I have to help myself…and need my sanity to do it.
Helping the Abled
Learning to Say No
Let Adults Be Adults
Life has a funny way of making you believe you are unworthy—worthless—useless—unloved—unwanted—and unwelcome. It can make you feel as if it’s you against the world and only the lucky ones are worthy of its secrets. But life rewards the courageous—the bold—and persistent. It rewards the caretakers and gift givers—and those who listen with their entire self.
It’s the hands of an ever ticking clock—unable to be stopped or wound back. It’s the mistakes you’ve made—the goals you set—the obstacles you fight through. It’s the tears you’ve cried—the depression you’re battling—the stress on your back and shoulders–the love you’ve found. It’s the emotional turmoil—the daily struggle—the constant hustle of day-to-day living.
It’s many things—but mostly one: It’s what you make it.
You know what happens when you stop helping those who expect it from you? They eventually figure it out themselves.