It’s ok if it didn’t work out the way you wanted. Despite the fallbacks, the most important thing you can do is to keep moving. So what if you’ve tried it a few times and it didn’t work—that doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means you need to change your approach. It’s ok to fall—it’s not ok to stay there. Get back up and try again.
All situations whether good or bad are nothing more than stepping stones to the next level. While everyone is different, how you choose to deal with a situation is the same. Either you let it consume you or you fight it out and eventually get to a place where you’re no longer in it. There will always be another fight, another struggle, another situation that will call you away from your purpose. These are growing pains. You must learn to be flexible and not let situations rule you.
OK, maybe you don’t need a year, maybe you just need time in general.
Time to: bring yourself out of a dark space and focus on the positive, work on your mindset, develop new ideas, to read more, quiet your nature, change some of your habits, work through a bad relationship, figure out what you really want from life and from yourself, etc.
Sometimes, being around the same group of people keeps you harboring the same emotions. Change your scenery, get out of the house, meet new people. Stop complaining and do something about your situation, even if it’s just a little. Do any and everything in your power to quiet your surroundings enough so that you have time to focus on you. Remember, it’s not about being selfish, but about your growth.
Whatever you do, you must set aside time to deal with or change a thing. If you don’t know who you are, you may never know where you’re going.
Sometimes you have to put yourself in a position where there are no other options and you’re forced to deal with it. You have a solid foundation of what you’re trying to accomplish, a decent skill set and the only way you’re going to do better is to dive, eyes closed into the lake. You’ll have to trust that your background, education and experience is enough to bring you to the surface. What you’ll often find is that you have amazing swimming skills and just needed the confidence to begin your journey. Trust yourself and dive in. It doesn’t begin until you do.
How much time do you spend working on someone else’s dream? We spend so much time working on someone else’s job, someone else’s dream, someone else’s goal that by the time we’re done, we’re too tired to work on ours.
Some people don’t even know what their dreams and goals are because they’ve exhausted themselves on someone else’s. Take time each day and work on you. Explore what makes you happy, write down any ideas you have, take the first step towards creating the life you want. If you’re not careful, by the time you look up, life will have passed you by.
Everything will not always turn out like you expect it to, but that doesn’t mean you have to take it personally. Things happen. Things will always happen. That’s life. But instead of blaming yourself, look at the situation as an opportunity for growth. Failure is not a reflection of yourself, it’s just life’s way of forcing movement. Just because what you did today didn’t work, doesn’t mean it won’t work tomorrow. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward with a better understanding today than yesterday.