Despite what’s currently going on in the world or your life, we have the responsibility to walk in the direction of peace. Don’t let disfunction and negativity take you away from that. Don’t let other people’s fears and insecurities unhinge the home you’re building within. They are responsible for their actions as you are responsible for your own.
When you’re trying to get your business off the ground you can’t worry about how much competition there is out there…not always. Looking at it from a personal development angle, sometimes the best thing you can do is accomplish your goal regardless of what’s going on. At the end of it all, it shapes you to be the person you’re supposed to be in order do what you’ve been created to do.
“I need a vacation.” Heard that one before, right? But what I really needed was a detoxification from work, people, and life situations. I kept asking myself, When do I get to breathe? When do I get to do what I want? When will someone finally notice and appreciate my efforts? Then it hit me: When? Now.
It was simple and I needed to remember what I needed. I take a breather when I want…not when someone says so. I get to do what I want when I make time for it and not when someone says I can. And I don’t need validation and appreciation for my efforts from someone else…when I pre-approved it. The lack of sleep and constant busy nothings was getting to me. I needed to take some time off from everything and everyone.
So, I shut off all communication from the outside world, refused to check emails, voicemails, and social media…and I couldn’t have made a better choice. Sometimes…some days…it just needs to be you against the world. Did I feel bad about not answering their calls, responding to emails, or not being available? (Insert laughter here.)
I had forgotten the answer to one question: You know what happens when you stop helping those who expect it from you? They eventually figure it out themselves. I can’t help everyone who asks for it…and I’m not required to. First, I have to help myself…and need my sanity to do it.
Life has a funny way of making you believe you are unworthy—worthless—useless—unloved—unwanted—and unwelcome. It can make you feel as if it’s you against the world and only the lucky ones are worthy of its secrets. But life rewards the courageous—the bold—and persistent. It rewards the caretakers and gift givers—and those who listen with their entire self.
It’s the hands of an ever ticking clock—unable to be stopped or wound back. It’s the mistakes you’ve made—the goals you set—the obstacles you fight through. It’s the tears you’ve cried—the depression you’re battling—the stress on your back and shoulders–the love you’ve found. It’s the emotional turmoil—the daily struggle—the constant hustle of day-to-day living.
It’s many things—but mostly one: It’s what you make it.
Without a defined reason or purpose, we go from day to day doing just enough to survive in the life we’ve created up until now. But subconsciously, it isn’t enough. Somehow you want something more you can’t describe. Life seems scheduled and boring and unmotivated…and somewhere you’ve accepted that. Perhaps its fear. Perhaps its stubbornness. Perhaps you’re lazy. Only you know what it is. But without purpose, you’re just maintaining a lifestyle. Take a little time each day to figure out what you want. Start asking questions. Start doing more of the things that make you smile. Figure out what’s keeping you from moving forward. Otherwise, what’s the point?
It’s ok if it didn’t work out the way you wanted. Despite the fallbacks, the most important thing you can do is to keep moving. So what if you’ve tried it a few times and it didn’t work—that doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means you need to change your approach. It’s ok to fall—it’s not ok to stay there. Get back up and try again.