Learn to Love the Journey, Not Just the Destination

Had lunch with a friend a while back.  We had just finished enjoying a movie and was on our way back to the city when I mentioned how much I loved road trips.  What he said next made me want to laugh…not the funny, ab crunching laugh out loud type of laughter, but the you’ve got to be joking kind.

He said he hated road trips.  Completely.   He hated the ride, hated the people, hated the time it took to get there.  He was only interested in the destination.  If there was a way to teleport himself to where he wanted to go and there was a company building a teleportation device, he’d be the sole stock owner.

I was shocked.  Who didn’t like road trips?  It took me a minute to understand that some people are in it for the destination, while others enjoy the journey.  There’s even a select few who enjoy both.  This applies to people in different stages in their life…be it career, family, hobby or business.  Some people are only in it for the end result, forgetting what it took to bring you there.

My point is this. The journey is just as important as the destination.  There’s lessons in the journey as well.  Much like writing, if you’re true to yourself and your craft, you eventually come to understanding yourself better and as a result…you write better, you do better, you become better.  That’s what the journey is for. Things take time.  You may not be there yet, but if you stay true to the course, before you realize it, you will reach your destination.  Sometimes it’s not the destination you wanted for yourself,  but a more fruitful and meaningful one.

So don’t get upset about how long it’s taking you to get where you vision yourself to be.  If you’re in the process of learning a new craft, take time to really learn it.  If you’re in the beginning stages of starting your business, take time to plan and learn what’s required.  Learn from the bumps in the road.  They’re not just bumps, but learning tools.

Enjoy the journey it takes to get you where you want to be.   You can’t rush the good stuff.


Note to Self: Life Does Not Reward Procrastinators

There will never be a perfect time to follow your dreams, start that business or write that book. If you don’t do it now, you never will. If you refuse to take the first step, perhaps you are unworthy of your dream. Take a chance on you for once regardless of the situation. Life does not reward procrastinators.

New Things Are Happening!!

Shout out to all of my Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and WordPress friends, followers, fans and family!! If you haven’t figured it out, I’ve decided to follow and develop my first love, writing. Those that know me are probably wondering what took me so long! But now, there are no more excuses! 2014 was a beautiful start, but I know 2015 will be even better. There are so many ideas and things I plan on doing that I can hear my mother in my head saying, “baby steps, Shakeena. It’ll all work out as it should.” I hope you’ll take this journey with me as I know this is just the beginning. So far, here’s what’s going on:

Live, Laugh & Rebel Blog: Live, Laugh & Rebel is about being better, doing better. It’s about standing as an individual and finding what’s unique about you and using it to live a better and fruitful life. It’s about personal growth, enterprise, self-education, entrepreneurship, conditioning and movement. It’s about all those things most people don’t want to hear, but need to in order to grow. You can view it at www.livelaughrebel.wordpress.com.

The Write Side of The Street Blog: This site about entrepreneurship will be consolidated with Live, Laugh & Rebel. All past and future site content will be posted there.

My Newsletter: A monthly newsletter. In every issue, you’ll find a Note to Self section, this is a short (sometimes longer) section about almost anything, it’s usually quotes or sayings I like (but you never know with me); a Main Character section, which is about developing and challenging yourself, like the main character in a story (after all, you are the main character in your story); and a Books section, which will show my latest books for sale. As things develop, you’ll see other sections which will include updates on events and showings, entrepreneurship, discounts, interviews and much, much more. If you prefer to up-to-date content, feel free to follow me on my blog, Live, Laugh & Rebel. You can subscribe to my newsletter at www.shakeenawheeler.com, on Facebook or you can send me your email and I’ll add you personally.

New Poetry E-book: Getting To You. A selection of poetry written by me for poetry lovers. You can purchase it at www.shakeenawheeler.com.

Writing Services: I offer a variety of writing services including web content, articles, blog posts, newsletters/e-newsletters, brochures, direct mail/e-mail marketing campaigns, white papers/how-to guides, ghostwriting, e-books, simple business, creative content and much more. You can find more information and my portfolio at http://www.shakeenawheeler.com. If you would like to discuss a project you have in mind, you can contact me at shakeena@shakeenawheeler.com or (484) 352-2147.

Well, that’s it so far, but there will be so much more coming up. Thanks again for everything you guys and I hope you have a peaceful and fulfilling year!

It Starts With You


“The impulse to dream has been beaten out of us by the experiences of life.”

How very true this statement is. Do not neglect the child in you full of wonder and curiosity. Allow time for your mind to wander. I’ve always said that we dream because we have to. Not the middle of the night crazy and unsolicited dreams we have in our sleep, but the ones we have when we’re supposed to be working, supposed to be doing something fairly important but would rather think about to get our minds off of the task at hand. It’s almost always the same thing every time, if not similar. We always dream of better, because underneath it all, despite our outer pessimistic shells, believe we deserve better. Why have you stopped dreaming? More importantly, why have you stopped believing? There’s not too many excuses that will hold water.

Learning to Say No

Saying no is healthy.  Being able to say no without having to explain why and not feel guilty about it is even healthier. Knowing when and how to say no is one of the most valuable skills you will ever learn.  At first, people won’t understand, will give you incredulous looks and expect you to change your mind.  But don’t waver.  Eventually, mature people will understand and life will become less dramatic.  You’ll start seeing and hearing the truth in people’s words and actions.  It’s OK to ask for help from time to time, but people shouldn’t be dependent on you for everything.  You can’t save everyone, but you can keep your sanity just a little while longer while you work on developing a better you.

Clarity is Power

If you can’t define your dreams, you don’t know where you’re going. Write them down, give them meaning, give them definition and then act on them. There’s no point in letting your goals and dreams linger within in you. Your dreams were given to you for a reason and only you can give them life. A man once said, “this world was created by people that were no smarter than you.” They decided to act on their dreams. Why shouldn’t you?

Note To Self: Mind Your Business

What people think about you is none of your business.