When you’re trying to get your business off the ground you can’t worry about how much competition there is out there…not always. Looking at it from a personal development angle, sometimes the best thing you can do is accomplish your goal regardless of what’s going on. At the end of it all, it shapes you to be the person you’re supposed to be in order do what you’ve been created to do.
“I need a vacation.” Heard that one before, right? But what I really needed was a detoxification from work, people, and life situations. I kept asking myself, When do I get to breathe? When do I get to do what I want? When will someone finally notice and appreciate my efforts? Then it hit me: When? Now.
It was simple and I needed to remember what I needed. I take a breather when I want…not when someone says so. I get to do what I want when I make time for it and not when someone says I can. And I don’t need validation and appreciation for my efforts from someone else…when I pre-approved it. The lack of sleep and constant busy nothings was getting to me. I needed to take some time off from everything and everyone.
So, I shut off all communication from the outside world, refused to check emails, voicemails, and social media…and I couldn’t have made a better choice. Sometimes…some days…it just needs to be you against the world. Did I feel bad about not answering their calls, responding to emails, or not being available? (Insert laughter here.)
I had forgotten the answer to one question: You know what happens when you stop helping those who expect it from you? They eventually figure it out themselves. I can’t help everyone who asks for it…and I’m not required to. First, I have to help myself…and need my sanity to do it.
Without a defined reason or purpose, we go from day to day doing just enough to survive in the life we’ve created up until now. But subconsciously, it isn’t enough. Somehow you want something more you can’t describe. Life seems scheduled and boring and unmotivated…and somewhere you’ve accepted that. Perhaps its fear. Perhaps its stubbornness. Perhaps you’re lazy. Only you know what it is. But without purpose, you’re just maintaining a lifestyle. Take a little time each day to figure out what you want. Start asking questions. Start doing more of the things that make you smile. Figure out what’s keeping you from moving forward. Otherwise, what’s the point?
It’s ok if it didn’t work out the way you wanted. Despite the fallbacks, the most important thing you can do is to keep moving. So what if you’ve tried it a few times and it didn’t work—that doesn’t mean you should give up. It just means you need to change your approach. It’s ok to fall—it’s not ok to stay there. Get back up and try again.
OK, maybe you don’t need a year, maybe you just need time in general.
Time to: bring yourself out of a dark space and focus on the positive, work on your mindset, develop new ideas, to read more, quiet your nature, change some of your habits, work through a bad relationship, figure out what you really want from life and from yourself, etc.
Sometimes, being around the same group of people keeps you harboring the same emotions. Change your scenery, get out of the house, meet new people. Stop complaining and do something about your situation, even if it’s just a little. Do any and everything in your power to quiet your surroundings enough so that you have time to focus on you. Remember, it’s not about being selfish, but about your growth.
Whatever you do, you must set aside time to deal with or change a thing. If you don’t know who you are, you may never know where you’re going.
How much time do you spend working on someone else’s dream? We spend so much time working on someone else’s job, someone else’s dream, someone else’s goal that by the time we’re done, we’re too tired to work on ours.
Some people don’t even know what their dreams and goals are because they’ve exhausted themselves on someone else’s. Take time each day and work on you. Explore what makes you happy, write down any ideas you have, take the first step towards creating the life you want. If you’re not careful, by the time you look up, life will have passed you by.
Your inner critic can be harsh. It can push away a good idea, convince you that you’re not good enough, not worthy enough and don’t have the ability to do it. Don’t deny yourself the vision you’re aiming to achieve by letting past experiences, bad moments or low self-esteem interfere with the vision you have of yourself.
If you feel as though you’ve fallen behind, remember why you started this journey. Keep those reasons close, you’ll need them when the road feels lonely. Use them to overcome feelings of depression and self-doubt. Use them to fuel your purpose and strengthen your character. Use them to smother your fears and replenish your faith. Use them to manifest your dreams. Use them to stay focused and build your courage. Use them to reprogram your mind and develop a better vision of yourself. Be persistent and stay focused. Your reasons will take you there.
A few days ago, I had a what the hell are you doing with your life moment, which most people might find strange because I seldom share this part of me. Most would say I’m ambitious, head-strong (can’t argue with this one), direct (definitely not this one either) and focused. But uncertain is not a word people would use to describe me.
While I wasn’t unhappy, I realized I wasn’t where I wanted to be in my life. I woke up thinking, there has to be more than this. There has to be more than my daily work-life routine.
But when I woke the following morning, I was in a different frame of mind. I realized I was being impatient. I had to remember that my journey is just beginning and it’s going to take a lot more to get where I want to be. In order for me to do more, I must be better than I am…and that’s not always easy. Change isn’t easy, but it’s better than being stagnant. Although I know I’m not in this alone, it’s hard to see through my own self-imposed cloudiness sometimes.
And even though the feeling of uncertainty was brief, the moment was needed to remind me to keep pushing through the doubt. Life does not reward procrastinators nor does it reward those who aren’t willing to go the distance. I needed to remember that this was part of my journey and from time to time, these feelings will surface, but I cannot allow these feelings to linger nor should I dwell on them.
No one ever said this was going to be easy. But will it be worth it? Yes.
I write these posts as much for you as for me. If you can relate to this at all, I encourage you to stay strong and keep pushing through my friend. We have too much work left to do.
“Want shows up in conversation, EXPECTATION shows up in behavior.” ~Les Brown
Everyone wants to be successful. But if you ask them if they expect to be, most people can’t answer. Talk is talk, but your behavior ultimately determines the type of person you are. You can dream all day about starting a business, but what are you going to do about it? Are you going to sit and pine about something you could have, should have done? Or are you going to take those steps necessary to secure your success? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be one of those people in my later years dreaming about something I could have done something about now. Take the first step and stop making excuses. Nothing happens until you make a commitment and a decision to act.